At 35 years old, I have had to deal with drug and alcohol addiction my entire life. My dad was an alcoholic growing up. I didn’t know him too well. He died when I was 14.

My mother went on to marry another man, who was also an alcoholic. He’s an angry and sarcastic drunk. I hate him.

My brother, who has always been my rock, is now addicted to crack. We don’t really talk much anymore.

My kid sister is addicted to meth. We also don’t talk.

My best friend from grade school (I’m looking at a picture of us in the 6th grade as I type this) killed himself 2 years ago.He hit rock bottom and slipped through the cracks. Those closest to him missed the warning signs and his addiction got the best of him.

His mother found him dead, in the living room, from a heroin overdose.

His mother found him dead, in the living room, from a heroin overdose.

He had been dead with a needle sticking in his arm for two days when she found him.

My kids have a babysitter, her name is Julie and she is 17 years old. She’s addicted to pain pills and meth.

I found my best jewelry missing and confronted her about it. She confessed after I threatened to call the police. She agreed to enter detox and a 90-day inpatient rehab after we talked.

Luckily, her parents have insurance and it’s covering the entire 90-day treatment. Not everyone is so lucky to have good health insurance, but treatment is available to everyone, if they look hard enough.

I was beyond devastated before she agreed to go into rehab. I was angry to the point where I wanted to run away from it all. But something clicked with our rehab conversation. She wanted help and needed support and I was there for her.

She wanted help and needed support and I was there for her.

It makes me wonder if I can have the same conversation with my brother and sister now?

Sometimes all an addict needs is someone to support them through the nightmare, to get them into treatment.

Not always, but sometimes.

I didn’t know what to do, so I detached from my family.

Now I realize that it’s worth asking about treatment options before detaching.

It’s worth talking about rehab before detaching because they could say yes to the idea.

What happens if you keep ignoring drug and alcohol abuse problems?

Fact is, it’s not going away and it will ultimately destroy your family and kill your addicted loved one.

You are not going to stop thinking about your addicted loved ones, because you care.

Are they alive, are they dead, are they homeless and hungry? Are they afraid and do they need someone to guide them into treatment, so they can end this nightmare?\r\n\r\nIf I paid my brother a surprise visit tonight, is possible that could walk in on him, dead in the living room?

Maybe. Maybe I could reach out and see how he is doing, and see if he needs help? These are my next steps.

Because, how can you just walk away from people who are a piece of you?

The answer is you can’t! At least not completely.


If you think it’s too late for inpatient rehab (it’s never too late for rehab, rehab works and saves lives!) or you’ve tried reaching out and it didn’t work, then consider detaching from your addict.

Detaching does not mean that you don’t care. It means you learn to love, care, and be involved without going crazy.

But first, you need to take control, make an effort to get your loved one into treatment before detaching.

When you become addicted to a loved one’s addiction, it takes over your thoughts, and you struggle as much as the addict.

Do yourself and your addict a favor and start the rehab process now while you still can!

If you don’t do something about the drug problems paralyzing you and your loved ones life, then it will worse!
Feelings helpless will not go away unless you know you did everything in your power to make a difference.

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